If you’ve been following me for a while then you have heard me say that our lives are shaped by the decisions we make. Therefore, if you want a better life then you have to make better choices. Every choice we make is actually a value judgment; our decisions are influenced by our values. Our values are what matter to us most, it’s what we stand for, and they are a representation of who we really are.
If I asked you what it is that you stand for, what do you think your answer would be? There is a quote that says “If you stand for nothing, then you will fall for anything.” Is it just me or are we drifting into a society where no one wants to be held accountable for their actions anymore? Everyone wants to say and do as they please without experiencing the consequences of doing so. Maturity does not come with age, but it comes with accepting responsibility for our actions.
Of course, I don’t want you to be one of those people. You were created to be your BEST. I believe that being your best involves living in the greatest consciousness and awareness of who you are and why it is that you choose to do what you do in every circumstance. In order to do so, you have to identify your values. Furthermore, you have to know the ranking of those values in your life or it can lead to confusion and poor decision making. For example, let’s say that you value career as something that is at the top of your list and then you meet a potential suitor who also values career. You’re thinking, “This is great! We share the same values, he’s a keeper!” But you forgot to go one step further in understanding if each other’s values are as relevant as the other may think. He may value career, but after spirituality, family, integrity and health. Career is 5th on his list and career is #1 on your; which is safe to conclude that you may run into some disagreements later down the line.
Consequently, this week, I want you to answer these questions and I want you to take it seriously.
- What do I value?
- What order are my values in or what’s my value ranking?
- What do I stand for?
Once you are clear on what you value then you can become better at making optimal decisions for your life. We have the power to be the change that we want to see in the world and set the tone of our environment instead of allowing our environment to control us. Be clear on who you are and what you stand for. It’s perfectly fine if others may not agree with you, they are allowed to do so. Nevertheless, I want you to be a woman who stands for something and is clear on what she will or will not allow in her life and why she will or will not allow it. Your values indicate your why, know them!
As always, it’s my honor to serve 🙂
XOXO,
Maria I. Melendez
@embraceherlegacy