What exactly is the purpose of our relationships? Most of the time, we are being used as instruments. Relationships are imperative for growth because you do not grow in isolation but you grow in community. 

But what do you do when it’s time to release a relationship? 

Well, if someone chooses to leave your life at their own will then as hard as it may be you have to let them leave. You should not have to beg or manipulate anyone to be in your life. Your level of security has to be in who you are as God’s child…as an heiress, as royalty. 

Do you think the queen of England begs anyone to be in her life? Of course not! 

Because she knows who she is. 

Same goes for you. God always works for your good. Therefore, if God is allowing a relationship in your life to be end then you have to believe that in some way, it is for your good. 

I know that this is way easier said than done. 

However, if you hold onto anything or anyone too tight then that person or thing has the power to become an idol in your life. And God is not having that LOL! 

What I mean by an idol is something that you seek meaning, identity or security in outside of God. So sometimes God will purposefully allow a relationship in your life to end in order for Him to do some work inside of you that He cannot do with certain people around you. 

There are people in your life who cannot go where you are going. They may not have the level of integrity, character, faith or maturity to understand where God is taking you. These people may mean well but they just are not the instruments God wants to use in your life during this season..there season has ended. 

Just because a season had ended with someone in your life does not mean that you hate them, you simply have to apply wisdom and put distance between you and that person. You never want to burn bridges because you never know when you may have to cross that bridge again. 

No need to blast that person on social media or get back at someone for hurting you. If someone has hurt you, forgive them and let God handle it. 

There’s a Scripture that says “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies” and another that says “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.” 

What does this mean? 

It means that God will make sure that your enemies see your glow up. He will make sure that He avenges you and He will make sure that you are paid back double for your trouble. 

Wouldn’t you rather have God avenge you then you trying to do it yourself? 

When God does it…trust and believe that it will be grandeur darling! 

And just because a relationship has come to an end in this season, does not mean that it will not come back around again. Many people have exited my life and come back around. That’s how good God is…when we let go of what we really want, he oftentimes gives it back to us in an even better form. 

Evaluate all your relationships and consider how you are being used as an instrument. If someone wants to leave, let them. If someone has hurt you, forgive and let God avenge you. If there is a relationship that you need to mend, do it. 


Maria I. Melendez
Founder & CEO