So you’ve got this big dream and you decided to share your new idea with someone close to you expecting their encouragement only to be disappointed when they tell you every reason why you can’t make it happen.
Or better yet you start dating this guy that you think could be your husband and your girlfriend tells you that “all men are dogs so don’t get your hopes up”.
Sound familiar to you?
I’m pretty sure that you’ve experienced an encounter similar to this one.
This is why it’s important for you to use discernment over who you share your vision with and even when you choose to tell them. I’m your “midwife” as my role is to inspire you to birth the dream that is growing inside of you. I like to consider us all as being “pregnant with a dream.”
But if you tell people about your dreams in its infancy or early development phase then their negative words have the power to influence you to abort your mission. There is a difference between seeking wise counsel and going to people for validation or approval of your vision. Not everyone needs to know all of your goals all of them time.
You might be expecting someone to think big like you but they may simply may not have the capacity to do so right now. If someone has never met with or come in contact with success-minded people then how can you expect them to think otherwise? If they have a “9 to 5” mentality and you have the mind of an entrepreneur then of course there will be conflict. If she believes that “all men are dogs” because she’s been hurt, hasn’t healed yet and has only been surrounded by broken relationships then how can you expect for her to be happy for you?
Are you getting mad at your turtles expecting them to be like a giraffe? As you’ve heard me share this with you before, “When you are a giraffe and you receive criticism from turtles they are reporting the view from the level that they’re on.” In essence, you cannot expect for someone who only has the limited view of a turtle to see your view as the giraffe.
Because of this, learn to have compassion for people who don’t get it instead of getting pissed off trying to explain it to them. Allow your vision to speak for itself and when the time comes those very same people will be lining up to ask you how you did it.
Sadly, the “turtles” in our lives who have the power to hurt us the most are usually loved ones in close proximity like family, friends, and even partners. I’ve dealt with this too so you’re not alone. But again, this is why I simply stopped talking and started doing.
People will impose their own hurt and insecurities onto you. Because they don’t have the courage to pursue their goals or believe for good things, they will impose that fear on you or tell you how you can’t do it because they never been exposed to someone who has. Accept people for who they are and most importantly for who they’re not.
The energy that you put out trying to get the validation and approval from others could be channeled into you realizing your top goals. That’s why I created my new audio lesson, Goal Slaying 101: 7 Steps to Achieve Your Goals. Take some time to invest into your vision and stop playing around LOL!
You will begin to feel so proud of yourself when you start taking action towards fulfilling your goals. A year ago, I had a desire of having my own podcast but it wasn’t a goal until I transformed into one. Your desires will stay desires until you create an action plan.
Well, in a few weeks, you’ll be tuning into my very first podcast episode! When I sat down to record each episode, I felt so damn proud of myself because this was one of my top goals and I took the very same steps that I teach in the class. But in full transparency, I thought I couldn’t do it because I lacked the experience until I met with my “tribe of giraffe-minded women” who encouraged me to just start and do it. And that’s exactly what I did!
For this reason, I encourage you to tune into the class so that a year from now you too can be well on your way to showing the people who doubted you, just what you’re made of.
What do you got to lose?
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Until next time, keep shining!
XOXO,
Maria I. Melendez
@embraceherlegacy
Embraceherlegacy.com