So last week’s post and Periscope message of motivation on overcoming failure, really hit home and inspired many of you. It takes vulnerability and authenticity in order to truly inspire others, and although I’ve struggled with doing so in the past, I’m blessed to know that you can find encouragement from my own journey of navigating through failures.
In last week’s message, I shared a point that I feel led to expand upon this week and that’s to change your mindset and expectations. When you’ve dealt with failure, especially when it’s a repeated failure in the same area, trying to believe that anything good can happen is ridiculously difficult! Your mind begins to feed you those lies to not expect anything at all. Your heart doesn’t even want to expect a positive outcome because you’ve failed and been rejected the last 5 times.
If this is your current situation, then this is your wake up call to change your expectation.
I realized that I was allowing the failures, rejections and disappointments of my past to steal my hope and expectations for my future. I expected the worse or things to go the same way they’ve always been until I had an “a ha” moment and realized that I had the power living on the inside of me to change my situation.
I’d pray but in my heart, I really didn’t expect any change. I’d declare positive expectations but I didn’t believe what I was saying. I’d “believe” that the meeting would go well, but in my subconscious mind I was waiting for the rejection.
I don’t care if you’re currently looking for a new job and you’ve been rejected at your last 6 interviews, or if you’ve been trying to get your manuscript published and you’ve heard “no” from 15 publishers, or if you’ve gone to 10 banks to get a loan for your business and you’ve been declined every time, or if you’re praying for emotional healing in a relationship and you’re still struggling with those feelings of despair, I want you change your mind and wholeheartedly expect things to turn around in your favor!
Did you know that Daymond John (branding expert, founder of FUBU and the “people’s shark” on Shark Tank) was declined by 27 banks before starting FUBU! AND get this, he never got the loan. His mother took out an additional mortgage on her home to finance his dreams while he lived in her basement! Howard Schultz, who is the CEO of Starbucks, was turned down by banks 242 times!
Yes, 242 times!
Your “failures” may not be in career or business, maybe it’s in your family, health, relationships or marriage. You must know that God (yes, God) is able to turn your situation around but you must believe that. Your relationship with your father may be strained but things can change if you believe it can. The doctor may be telling you that you’re likely to have breast cancer because your mother and grandmother had it. You have to believe that just because it happened to them does not mean it’s a death sentence for you. Your younger sister may have ran away from home and is out on the streets, you have to believe that those prayers of yours are working and soon she’ll come back home. Why pray if you’re not going to believe that things will change?
The key to living with expectancy of good things happening is hidden inside of your heart. If your heart is filled with resentment, guilt, shame, regret, unforgiveness, anger, fear, or worry then living with expectancy is going to be almost impossible for you. You have to strip yourself of those negative emotions because they are holding you back.
Things can change in your favor. Today is your day to start that shift but it begins within your mind and heart. Will you make the commitment to change your mind and start living with expectation?
Destroy those negative thoughts and replace them with positive expectations – today!
XOXO,
Maria I. Melendez
@embraceherlegacy